**DISCLAIMER: These are all my personal opinions and we can have different opinions**
Overprotective parents generally want to protect their children from harm, from hurt and pain, from unhappiness, bad experiences, and rejection, from hurt feelings, failure and disappointments. When you hear them explain it like that, it sounds admirable, to begin with, but look closer and think about what experiences their children are prevented from having. It is difficult for these parents to admit the reality of their fears for their children – fears that often include statements like, “Watch out – you’ll fall”, when at a playground, or “Be careful, you’ll have an accident ” while riding their bicycles. Overprotective parents envision fear in most situations and by putting this fear on their children; they are creating fear filled, anxious, emotionally retarded children.
From the minute they are born, children begin the long journey towards independence. So it stands to reason that parents begin the long journey of letting go! Over protective parents create continuous situations from which their children struggle to escape until eventually there is no escape as the fears have become part of the pattern for the child’s way of thinking. This type of parenting or smothering rather than mothering is ineffective and fails to instill virtues and values such as responsibility, courage, self-esteem, self-respect, confidence in your child. Instead, it gives children the message that they can’t be trusted and that they are incapable of normal events that other children handle with ease. What a message to give them!
Encourage them to explore, conquer, climb, and master new activities provide the means for tremendous growth and learning both for them and for parents. In order to become responsible, confident, assertive, independent adults, children need opportunities to explore their environment both physically and emotionally without continuous interference from their parents. Let go and allow children to fall, make mistakes, experience rejection, feel jealousy and suffer defeat. Let go and watch them grow in confidence, skill, responsibility and emotional intelligence as they learn from all life has to offer them. Let go your attachment to being an overprotective parent and find constructive ways to release yourself from your fears before you give them to your children.
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